What We Say When We Talk With Dogs

And what it tells us about an ancient relationship.

“What is it about dogs that makes intelligent men, gifted women — great minds — look at them and say [in baby-talk voice], ‘Who’s a good boy? . . . Wooj a whajeejeeb?’”

– Stephen Colbert

In her fascinating book, Our Dogs, Ourselves: The Story of a Singular Bond, Alexandra Horowitz, one of the world’s leading dog cognition scientists, begins a chapter about how people talk to their dogs with this quote from Stephen Colbert. Her aim in the chapter is to document the things people say to their dogs to shed some much-needed light on this little-explored area of cross-species communication.

It’s so natural to talk to dogs that for me I wasn’t even aware when I did it. But now I have evidence that I — that we all — talk to our dogs.

Everywhere we go we encounter dogs: on the sidewalk, in the parks, in stores and airports, at readings, and of course at Kingwood Pet Resort. Most of the dogs are with people. Consequently, it is not long before I hear people talking to their dogs. Sure, much of what we say to dogs is request or command, exclamation points implied: Sit; Come; Go Get Your Ball. Once we begin really listening, you’ll be surprised at how much is not mere directive.

The more I know the more I hear.

“You’re so cute and so smart. And worth money! I could marry you.”
(Woman to her Goldendoodle)

Black Lab Looking

Once I began listening for other owners’ dog-directed soliloquies, I found that they were commonplace. I might catch two or three conversational snippets on a long walk. It seems as though the act of a person walking by sometimes prompted an owner’s conversational opening to her dog — as though to emphasize how not-walking-slowly-down-the-sidewalk-alone she is. Not at all alone: She is with someone.

“What are you even doing? I don’t understand you.”
(Woman to her very sniffy black-and-white dog)

As every “Hi, puppy!” directed dogward demonstrates, the way we talk to dogs overlaps with the way we talk to babies. A Harris poll found that 95 percent of us consider dogs our family — so are we simply talking to them as if they were our children? “Pet-directed speech” certainly shares many features with baby talk: We raise the pitch of our voice and make it singsongy. We use a fairly limited vocabulary with infants, and with dogs too: more “You’ve been bad” than “What you did was morally indefensible.” Language is telegraphed: We tend to repeat words, slow our speech, shorten phrases and drop some categories of words.

On the other hand, when speaking to infants, we hyperarticulate our vowels: exaggeratedly saying Look at the doggeeeeee! to babies — but not nearly as much to dogs. It’s a subtle but key difference that marks a rift in our ways of thinking about kids and pups. Hyperarticulation is didactic, a way of teaching a growing human our language. When we are talking to dogs, we are under no illusion that they will grow up to use the language themselves.

In the spirit of conversation that doesn’t need an answer, we turn question marks toward our pups, engaging them as if they might respond — and then waiting a beat to give them due time to so reply. Behind every unanswered question is the feeling that we might know the answer, given that we and our dogs live together, see each other naked, and obviously know everything about each other. Hence the reliable appearance of the We’ve Discussed This utterances (dog’s full family name implied)…

Dog Walkers

Most of the animal speak I overhear, is seemingly not intended for my ears. But when we talk to dogs around others, it serves as a social lubricant, a way to open up the possibility of talking to each other. “What’s your name?” said dog-ward is never answered — except, obligingly, by a dog’s owner. Dogs are not only reflections of us, they are social intermediaries for us. Any hesitation I may have about a person approaching me on the street is deflected by my dog Nyx’s smiling, wag-filled greeting of them; in response, they talk not to me, but to the dog. Dogs are, of course, the preoccupation of our minds: we hope for them, care for them, love them. We narrate our thoughts while we watch them, and their thoughts while they accompany us.
One of the things we say to our dogs daily — two-thirds of us, according to one survey of North American pet owners — is I love you. Even the simple sound of our voice is an expression of that love, regardless of the content of the words we say. Through talking to them, we let them into an intimacy with us. They hear our secrets, our private thoughts.

So now you know: Pass me on the sidewalk, and I may be listening. Please don’t let it stop you from talking. It makes me feel optimistic about humans to hear us talk to other animals. We are at our best in those moments when we extend the circle we’ve drawn around ourselves to include them.

9 Tips For Keeping Your Dog Active

Dogs are active animals that require regular physical and mental exercise to stay healthy and happy. Lack of activity can lead to boredom, anxiety, and destructive behavior. In this blog post, we will discuss nine tips for keeping your dog active.

  1. Daily walks: Take your dog for a walk every day. This will provide him with the opportunity to explore his surroundings, get some fresh air, and exercise his muscles. The length and frequency of walks depend on your dog’s breed, age, and fitness level.
  2. Interactive play: Playing games with your dog is an excellent way to keep him active. You can play fetch, tug of war, or hide-and-seek. These games not only provide physical exercise but also stimulate your dog’s mind.
  3. Dog sports: Enroll your dog in a sport such as agility, obedience, or flyball. These sports provide an excellent opportunity for your dog to exercise while also challenging his mind and building his confidence.
  4. Swimming: Swimming is a low-impact exercise that is ideal for dogs with joint problems or those who need to lose weight. You can take your dog to a local lake, river, or swimming pool to swim.
  5. Hiking: Take your dog on a hiking trip. This provides an opportunity for your dog to explore new environments and challenge his senses. Ensure that your dog is fit enough for the hike and bring enough water and food for both of you.
  6. Dog parks: Visit a local dog park, here at Kingwood Pet Resort we have over 2 acres available for you furry friend to run and play in an enclosed space. This provides an opportunity for your dog to socialize with other dogs and get some exercise. Ensure that your dog is up-to-date on his vaccinations before taking him to a dog park.
  7. Puzzle toys: Give your dog puzzle toys to keep him mentally stimulated. These toys challenge your dog’s problem-solving skills and keep him occupied for long periods.
  8. Training: Training your dog is an excellent way to keep him active. You can teach your dog new tricks, obedience commands, or even scent work. Ask about our training programs, from puppies to the advanced agility dog.
  9. Professional dog care: Enroll your dog in a professional dog daycare or boarding facility. These facilities provide structured playtime and exercise programs that can keep your dog active and stimulated. If you have a busy schedule and cannot provide your dog with the attention and exercise he needs, dog daycare (K-9 Kamp here at Kingwood Pet Resort) can be an excellent option for keeping your dog active and happy.

Conclusion: Keeping your dog active is essential for his physical and mental well-being. By following the tips outlined in this blog post, you can provide your dog with the exercise and mental stimulation he needs to stay healthy and happy. Remember to always consult your veterinarian before starting any new exercise program with your dog. We here at Kingwood Pet Resort look forward to serving you and you furry friend soon.

Pet Day Kamp – Fun Blossoms Here

Doggie Day Kamp options give your pet a fun-filled experience with plenty of time to play with all their friends! Dogs are social animals that thrive on human interaction and regular physical activity. If you have a busy schedule and cannot provide your dog with the attention and exercise he needs, dog daycare can be an excellent option for keeping your dog active and happy. In this blog post, we will discuss the benefits of dog daycare for keeping your dog active.

  1. Socialization: Dog daycare provides an opportunity for your dog to socialize with other dogs and humans. This can help your dog build confidence, reduce anxiety, and learn proper behavior around other dogs.
  2. Exercise: Dog daycare provides structured playtime and exercise programs that can keep your dog physically active throughout the day. This can help maintain your dog’s weight, strengthen his muscles, and improve his overall health.
  3. Mental stimulation: Dog daycare can provide your dog with mental stimulation through games, puzzles, and interactive toys. This can help improve your dog’s problem-solving skills, reduce boredom, and prevent destructive behavior at home.
  4. Professional supervision: Dog daycare facilities have trained professionals who supervise the dogs’ activities throughout the day. This can ensure that your dog is safe, well-cared for, and receives the attention he needs.
  5. Convenient: Dog daycare can be a convenient option for busy pet owners who cannot provide their dogs with regular exercise and attention. Many dog daycare facilities offer flexible hours and packages that can accommodate your schedule and budget.

Conclusion: Dog daycare can be an excellent option for keeping your dog active, social, and mentally stimulated. By providing your dog with structured playtime, exercise programs, and professional supervision, you can ensure that your dog receives the attention and care he needs while you are away. Remember to choose a reputable and licensed dog daycare facility that meets your dog’s specific needs and preferences.

Ask about K-9 Kamp, Training and dog sports here at Kingwood Pet Resort